Following in Grandma's Footsteps

My Grandmother was an activist. I didn't know it - I was too young to understand. I only knew that she spent hours typing away on her typewriter and had received responses from senators, governors, and presidents. I knew she had hundreds of clippings of her own words appearing in the newspaper.

For her, it was abortion.

For me, well, I've never been much of an activist. I believe in it, I support it, but I'd have no idea where to start. And the image I have is a little more about protests and legal battles. But here it is, my first letter to help rectify misconceptions:

Dear Lee Hyo-sik,

I'm writing in response to your November 14th article on Korean women involved in the sex industry abroad. I greatly appreciate your desire to draw attention to the issue, which is certainly a grave concern for Korea. This is definitely an increasing trend that needs to be addressed. 

I have no doubt about your facts - the numbers you quote seem fairly reasonable, even a bit conservative. However, I feel there is some information you may not be aware of. While it is true that most women in this situation have a valid working holiday visa, that does not necessarily make it true that they voluntarily chose to work in the sex industry. 

Employers, more accurately known as "traffickers", are acutely aware of the vulnerability of such young women and target them. They loan them money for their visas or offer part time jobs. The girls are then expected to pay back this money by working for them. Not all of them are directly coerced into offering sex services, but they are often told to serve in a bar or similar setting. Then, being charged for room and board as well, the girls find it impossible to pay back their debt - so they do what all the other girls do and sell their bodies. They usually don't even see how much money they're making, the "employers" collect directly from the clients. 

Here's an article from an Australian news source that describes a murder likely connected to human trafficking. If you read the article, look carefully at the story of Kathy. You'll notice, she may have had freedom to come and go, to make friends, etc. But if they hold her passport and money, you can see why there's no need for bars and chains.

You do make reference to trafficking in your article, but it appears as an afterthought to the idea that Korean women are intentionally seeking prostitution employment abroad. I would suggest, that if you do a little research, you'll discover that trafficking is the second largest criminal industry in the world and the fastest growing. You'll also discover that the Korean Criminal Law, Article 245, defines trafficking as "transferring a subject...... [by] promising money, valuables, property benefits, including advanced pay..." The UN Protocol, which Korea also signed, defines it as "recruitment, transportation, transfer, harboring, or receipt of persons by means of the threat of use of force or other forms of coercion, of abduction, of fraud, of the abuse of power, or of a position of vulnerability...." Notice that both documents include debt bondage or otherwise "tricking" a person into working for another person. 

The primary problem is that most people don't recognize what constitutes human trafficking. Korean women working in the sex industry in Australia are far more likely to be trafficking victims than anything else. Korean girls, motivated by the pressure to learn English, have become the number one trafficked into the US and other western countries.

Finally, if you pursue such research, you'll discover that Korea receives a great number of girls trafficked from South East Asia and Russia to fill its own brothels. Human trafficking is found in every nation, without exception.

I hope that you will discover some of these facts for yourself, then re-consider the conclusions you draw in your article. 

I think Grandma would be proud. And I, well I'm wondering what took me so long. 

Word Watch

The words I'm watching are my own. I have a student who I've heard a little about from another teacher - nothing bad, mind you. But this student is in my class for the first time, and I said, "You're an English major, right?" No.... "Oh, but you take a lot of English classes?"

Then he got worried. He asked how I knew that, if another teacher had said something. But the teacher he mentioned was a third teacher, not the one that had named him. I gave him a hard look, and asked if he was in the speech competition. He was, and I said he must be familiar from that.

Ok, now perhaps we could say I lied. Perhaps I should have told him that just an hour before, one of his teachers had looked through my attendance list and named all her students. But it is true - he did look familiar. And he was in the competition. So in the end, he got his answer and wasn't worried about teachers gossiping.

Well, that's great. But it has me thinking. See, I generally don't talk about students with other teachers - none of us do. We might talk about how a class is going, or a project we did with students. We may even mention that one student or another stands out. But we generally don't just complain about students or gossip about them.

But they don't know that. And frankly, I would be a little uncomfortable if I felt my teachers were talking about me. They might be saying only good things, but I can't know that. It would make me self-conscious.

So today I resolve to watch what I say in two ways: 1) I won't gossip about students. I don't think I do, but I'm going to make a special effort on that front - what a student says or does (even if it's in the public setting of class) is confidential. 2) I won't listen to other teacher's comments about students. Again, I really don't think I do, but sometimes a teacher lets something slip, especially if you have the same students. Now, I'm not going to be the annoying person, "Oh, stop. I don't want to hear any gossip." But I will avoid it tactfully, and, if I do hear something, be careful not to allude to it again.

All in all, I want to really respect my students. And watch my words. 

Level Tests

Today was all about level tests. These are tests given to students to determine how much they know of a language. As a teacher, I can determine how much they know based on a short conversation. Also, as a teacher, I remind the students to relax - it's not a major test, just a way for us to sort the students into similar groups. We had to level test our students for the summer program.

But I had a few students sweating bullets. I'm sure they knew much more English than they spoke, but they were so nervous they could barely complete sentences.

Me too. Because today I also took a level test - for Korean.

Yes, I'm finally starting Korean classes. I've been wanting to do it for a long time, but I was waiting until I had the time to focus and the money to pay for it. So I signed up. I should start at Level 2, I'm sure. But when it came to the interview, I couldn't speak a word in Korean. I could understand the questions, but whatever vocabulary I knew was gone. I could basically only stutter a "yes" or "no"... or I'd switch to English. Which is pretty much what I do in real daily life, except that I can usually get a few more Korean words out.

Anyway, she wanted to put me in level 1, where I'd be studying the alphabet. I asked her to bump me up - promised I'd be focused since this is all I'm doing this summer (except for the classes I'm teaching the next few weeks). Truth is, I'm a good student. I'm sure that if she puts me in level 2, I'll be the top student...

So here's what I'm thinking: I have a lot more sympathy for my students. It's the mix of shame and confusion. It's also dread and hope. And yeah, nerves are a big part of this.

So there it is. I'm finally starting Korean. It's about time.

Fresh Starts

Every few months, I get motivated. I clean my room. I mean, I really clean it. You know, toss out all the old papers, find random items under the bed.... A fresh start. Then, I turn to my online life... There's a part of me that would love to be organized and narrate who I am online. Keep the blog, photos, facebook, twitter, and assorted other sites connected and well-informed. Unfortunately, it just takes too much time.

However, when I'm motivated, as now, I always want to toss this blog and start afresh. It's like a New Year's resolution. I'm going to.... learn a language. Lose weight. Read more. Be organized... but there's a reason these resolutions don't work.

See, all of these things are about habits. Habits are tricky things. They sneak into your life unexpectedly, then seem so hard to break. But that's not the worst thing, as we all know. The worst thing is trying to create one. I mean, they slip into our lives on their own easily enough, so why should it be so hard to gain one you actually want?

Now, I know all the tricks. Anchor a new habit (like reading) to an old habit (like commuting on the train). Then there's the whole thing about goals - set big goals, then break them down into smaller goals. Or grab a partner to help you stick to the new habit. These are all excellent tricks, but they exit precisely because changing habits is so hard.

Then, there's my journal. If you ask me, I say I journal. Yes, I do. I keep a journal. Regularly. I've been keeping one for more than half my life now. Portions are on the computer and portions are in some well-worn journals, but they all add up to the narrative of my life. Honestly, that's an impressive habit.

But you know what's interesting when you look at this habit? It's full of holes. "Regularly" is relative. There are months where I wrote every day. Every single day, for an hour or more - I wrote. Then there are six months of silence. Absolutely nothing is said for whole portions of my life. Did nothing happen? Was I simply to busy to write? Writer's block? Yes. Yes. Yes.

Some people have an amazing ability that most of us envy: Discipline. They can stick with it no matter what. That's great. For them. But for the rest of us, there's the perspective of the big picture. When I look back at 15 years of journaling, I don't notice all the gaps. I notice what was actually done.

So it is with prayer. Or a healthy lifestyle. Or even organizing all my photos online. The thing that I love most - God sees from the big picture perspective. He celebrates that we managed to do it, not berating us for the times we missed. So let's throw out the guilt and do it just one more time.  Even if you didn't feel like it yesterday, of for the past year. Pick up where you're at and move forward. Don't go back to the beginning.

I won't be starting a new blog. I might be adding to this one. I might not. But the fact that it's been wobbling around for nearly two years means I should help it out, not scrap it and try to be perfect.

4 AM Thoughts

Though I be awake, my thoughts merge and flow as in a dream. This has always been the case late at night, when only the drunks are awake and stumbling around outside. Reality bends and stories blend until new truths emerge.

I've been watching videos of the Google car. Pretty awesome technology. The smart phone I hold in my hand has more power than my first laptop did just 7 years ago. So yes, the idea that cars will be driving themselves in eight years seems the highly probable.



And yet, there remains the reality that tragedy strikes unexpectedly.  I know people in Japan: People who are searching for bottled water to horde. People who don't know where their loved ones are. People who desperately want to leave the country, but can't. Perhaps in eight years, Japanese newspapers will be filled with stories of cancer, economic stagnation, and dependency on foreign aid.



These two thoughts play around in my head. Two futures. Two possibilities. Humanity is moving forward. Poverty can be eradicated as a disease. Education can be made available. Or the polar ice caps will melt and the images from the tsunami will be world-wide. The US dollar will rapidly inflate, destabilizing world economies.

But in truth, they aren't two futures. They're the same future. Both of them are reality. And that's scary as hell. It's the clash of humanity's potential and its baseness. Christians refer to this as the imago dei (the image of God) and sin.

But there's a new factor: technology. Technology has dramatically sped up the process of change. So things that should take a century, will be happening in the next decade. I wonder where I'll be in 10 years? And what will be a part of my daily life that is now inconceivable?

A Quick Personal Update

I haven't forgotten this blog... or the series on working in Korea. I've just been busy starting a new job. Here's the scoop:

I love it! It feels so incredibly good to be back in the classroom. I'm teaching college English - mostly the required freshman conversation classes. Those are crazy - 40 students per class, only 2.5 hrs a week! As if I can really help them practice speaking in those conditions....

But my classes are pretty cool. The students are arranged by majors, not English ability. In fact, there's no way to test out of it - one of my students lived in San Diego for 10 yrs! But apparently he thinks English will be an easy A, because during the second week he signed up for my elective class as well. 

These first couple weeks have been crazy, because I have to do my Powerpoint for lectures and re-write some of the syllabi. Should slow down this week, at least until midterms. But wow, I've never been on the semester system before - 16 weeks seems endless!

Working in Korea 3: Job Options

Teaching English. That's what most people do in Korea. But that's not all. I'm going to break it down for you a bit more:

1. Teach Children

I would say this is the vast majority of jobs available. And you don't need any experience for these jobs - just a bachelor's degree, clean bill of health, and a headache of paperwork.

But this can be subdivided into two categories. Hagwons are generally after-school programs for kids. Classes can range from 5-15 students, grouped by age or ability. Working hours are in the afternoon, usually 2-10pm. You'll probably teach 30 hrs a week. Now, if you've never taught before, as most hagwon teachers haven't, that's a LOT of teaching time. That leaves little to no time for prep work and grading. But after a month or two, it gets easier. Since hagwons are businesses, it usually comes down to keep the students happy and teach as much as possible. I'll write more details about hagwons later - this is the easiest option, but also has the most problems.

The second category is teaching in a public school. You might be the only foreign staff in the school, so some people have a lot of problems with adjusting and communicating at work. Also, most teachers teach with a Korean co-teacher. This can be great or terrible, depending on who your co-teacher is. In fact, I would say how positive your relationship is with your co-teacher determines how well your year goes. I'd say public schools are a great alternative to hagwons (regular 8-5 hours, stable pay / employment, etc). But there seems to be more interpersonal conflicts with staff and administration. Also, some elements of the Korean education system are going to drive you crazy at times.

2. Teach University

Alright, if you're just thinking of moving to Korea, this probably isn't an option for you. Most of these positions require 2 years teaching experience and a master's. Also, this has gotten more competitive as the US economy has sent people with higher education abroad for work. Finally, many of these are a "who you know" kind of system. And if you haven't been in Korea, you probably don't know anyone.

But, assuming you have the credentials / experience or contact, it's a great option. One important thing to know though: a lot of universities basically operate a "hagwon". This means that within most universities you can work in a language center (ie, hagwon that may teach only college students or may also include young kids) or you work in the English Department, teaching regular literature courses.

The majority of uni teachers are doing the language centers. In fact, if  university job is advertised, assume it's a language center. Teaching department courses generally requires an MA in English Lit, and I think only some of the top universities do this.

But here's why people love them: The schedule!

Weekly: The pay is usually similar to a hagwon, but you only teach 12-20 hours a week. Of course, there's planning and grading time, which is even greater than a hagwon. But I'd estimate that most people put in about 25-35 hrs a week (of course, during midterms and finals you might be swamped!).

Annually: 10-15 weeks off per year! Unlike the US system, the Korean system has two long breaks (winter and summer). Each break is about 10 weeks (Dec 15 to March 1, June 15 to Sept 1). Usually you're required to work during ONE of these breaks, usually about half the break. So, for example, if you to take the whole winter break to go somewhere for Christmas, you might work June 15 - Aug 1, still getting a 1 mos break during summer. Plus there is a 1 week break in the middle of each semester and various holidays.

Okay, so I'm clearly biased. Truth is, most people that stay more than a year usually want into the uni system. But there's a third job category...

3. Professional Work

Okay, I put this last because it's the smallest and most competitive group. Also, it's really a hodgepodge of various jobs. So let's break them down:

A. Company English Teacher - Larger corporations (LG, Samsung, Korean Air, Hyundai, etc) often hire full time English staff. You will have regular company work hours (about 9-6, sometimes varied for classes), a regular desk, and standard 2-3 week vacation. You should dress professionally. Your work will included teaching business classes, editing correspondence/manuals, giving English interviews and pretty much anything else that needs to be done in English.

The pay is usually better, but the hours can be long. Also, you need experience - either as a business / adult English teacher, or experience in the corporate setting. However, if you don't like kids and want a more regular 9-5, this is it. Also, realize that your exact responsibilities may vary, especially depending on they type of company and your own experience (a friend of mine who is fluent is Spanish ended up translating a lot of documents from Spanish to English for her construction company).

B. Editing (or Translating) - Although I would put translators into this category, I find that  Korean is not usually required. I feel this is because of hiring practices. See, they could hire full time translators. But instead, they usually require high level Korean staff (managers, lawyer, doctors, etc) to have a very high competency in writing English. So usually they just need an editor to smooth over the rough language. I think it makes sense - editors are easier to find than translators.

Also, editing is often part of the job listed above. However, there are a significant number of editing only jobs. This is what I did my first year. I hated it. I stared at a computer for 8 hours a day, nitpicking over commas and trying to change awkward Konglish phrases into smooth English. You need to be very detail-oriented for this work. Also, editors are often hired by profession. So, for example, a hospital might need an editor with a medical background. There are also a lot of law firms that need editors with a legal background.

On the other hand, for introverts, it's a GREAT alternative to teaching. Some of the people I worked with loved having a quiet professional job, loved focusing on the language, and loved leaving it all behind at the end of the day. They felt this was much less stressful than teaching. Less stressful and more independent. This usually appeals to those who enjoy writing.

C. Entertainment / Publishing - A very, very small clique. There are English newspapers, TV shows, and radio stations. They need actors, writers, newscasters, you get the picture. Also, it seems the music scene is easier to break into here. But I'd also say most of the people in these jobs are gyopos. Even if their Korean isn't great, they're usually here more long-term and they don't have as many visa issues. In fact, I think it's mostly about the visa. An F-4 gyopo (or Korean citizen who is fluent in English) can work a little here and a little there - most of these jobs are NOT full time.

Also, in this category, I must include voice actors. My first job included working with voice actors, and I was impressed to realize how many there were. Basically, since Koreans feel English is so vital to academic and professional success, there are a LOT of textbooks and study materials produced in Korean. But even though a Korean author can write the book, the need an editor (see above) to check it and a voice actor for all the listening practice. Also, announcements on trains, planes, and public places need voice actors. Even my GPS, which is all Korean, has the option of English directions - so someone had to record "Please turn left. Take the underpass in 1 kilometer."

Anyway, however you look at it, the entertainment industry has a strong English division. However, you really need an F level visa. Also, I don't have suggestions on how to get into the field. I think it comes down to knowing people. Or random encounters on the street. (I've seen it happen!)

Other - Okay, this list will go on forever if I let it. Basically, there are people doing research, practicing law, running businesses, and everything else here. These jobs generally take some level of Korean and the people are here long term. Some people get sent here by their companies, some work in the embassy, etc. But if you put the time and effort into it, you can find a good position and make quite a life here. These are professional jobs, so BE PROFESSIONAL. And you're really going to need experience and appropriate education, just like back home. So don't expect to come here with a B.A. in communications and a smattering of Korean and find some corporate job.

Whew, that was a long one! This post should have been three!

Working in Korea 2: Gyopos

This post has a very specific audience: Korean- Americans/ Canadians/ Australians/ Germans/ whatever... Basically, if you're Korean by heritage, I'm going to use the Korean word "gyopo" to define this group. This basically means anyone with Korean ancestry, or, as Koreans often define it "Koreans raised abroad". 

Gyopos! Listen up. You need your own special post because you've got a more intricate relationship with Korea. That might be the reason you want to come. It also might make your life here more difficult. I know, some of you laugh. You figure you speak the language so life will be easier for you than for the average foreigner. Not likely...

Okay, first thing you need to know. Get an F-4 visa. You have to prove your family is in some government registry books. Some people have a hard time with this, but I'd highly recommend it. This gives you freedom. You can work part time. You can work more than one job. You can quit a job any time. You can get loans / credit more easily.

Just so you know, the average non-gyopo foreigner gets none of those freedoms. And if they want similar rights, they need to marry a Korean. Or work really hard to qualify for a similar visa (it would take most people 3-10 yrs to get it). Or invest half a million dollars in Korea and hire 10 Korean staff....unlikely.

Ok, back to gyopos. Here are some of the challenges: Your Korean probably sucks. Sorry, but most gyopos are shocked when they get here. You probably sound like you're five. If that's not you, sorry - you may indeed be fairly fluent. 

Even if you're fluent, there's a good chance the culture shock is going to be more intense. In fact, it's sometimes worse for gyopos than non-gyopos. Here's why: Koreans look at a non-gyopo and think "Foreigner. Speaks English. Strange customs / actions expected. Acts like Hollywood."

Koreans look at gyopos and think "Korean. Strange style. Strange attitude. Arrogant. Can't speak Korean. Idiot." Or - "Can speak Korean. Must be fully Korean. Should act more Korean. Doesn't know how to behave. Very rude." Yeah, basically - if you look like a duck, why aren't you acting like a duck? 

Oh, and you know all those annoying things your family does - you're going to find out why. And that makes it harder for you too, because the average non-gyopo doesn't have all the hang-ups that someone raised with Korean culture might have. It's like how your mom can annoy you with a simple comment, but your friends might think it's endearing, or cute, or sweet that she cares, or just no big deal. But because you have history with your mom, she knows how to push your buttons. 

But here's the benefits: You will start to understand your family. At least, they won't seem so crazy to you. You'll learn how to communicate better with the older generation, maybe even improve your language skills. And if you're an adoptee, you'll learn about the heritage that you missed out on. 

Basically, you'll have a lot of baggage coming in. Even if you think you won't, you'll discover the hidden baggage here. And your culture shock might be even more severe. Oh, and did I mention Koreans might treat you like crap? 

BUT it's totally worth it. You will find out just how Korean you are - and how Korean you're not. And that'll probably help you embrace your background and be a more well-rounded, balanced human being. All in all, not a bad thing. 

Oh, but don't forget: Get the F-4 visa!

Working in Korea 1: Why?

Okay, this seems totally unrelated to my regular blog. But people sometimes ask me about this and I decided it was time to write something up that I can refer them to. I'll work on this in series, since it's a lot of information.

Before you start asking about where to work or how to find a good job, you need to ask some foundational questions. Today, I'll write about the first question.

What's your purpose in Korea? Why would you relocate to a foreign country? Why Korea?

There's no right answer here. But having a sense of purpose will guide your choices after this. Here are some common reasons:

• Financial - "I want to make money. I hear Korea's the best place to do it." Maybe it's student loans, or not finding a decent job back home. That's fine. I'm not going to knock you for this at all. Just be honest if this is your reason.
• Travel - "I want to see the world." No problem, you can see Asia from here. If you have enough vacation time. And if you make friends who want to travel with you. 
• Experience - "I've just finished college and want to try something different before grad school / working life." No problem. It'll be different alright. It could be the best - or worst - experience of your life. 
• Korean culture - You're in to K-pop. Or Korean dramas. You think Korean guys are kinda cute or the girls are easy. Good luck with that...
• Korean language - I do NOT put this under culture, where it should go. If you want to learn Korean - maybe you're Korean by heritage and are embarrassed when Grandma visits, or maybe you've caught "Korean fever" - Korea's the place to do it. But keep in mind that you WON'T learn it just by being here.

Alright, you might even have different answers. That's fine, I'm not saying any of them are right or wrong. Just be honest with yourself. And be clear. Be very, very clear on why you want to work in Korea. And write that down - because sometimes, that'll be the only thing that will get you through the day. 

Besides, if you can't answer this question, you're definitely not ready to make such a  big life decision.

On a Scale of 1 to 10...

That's how paramedics ask you to describe the pain. Doesn't matter the injury, just give me some vague idea of how much it hurts.

There's a problem with that question: The scale is relative. My 8 might be your 3. Okay, well, actually, paramedics consider this as well. That's why medical professionals tend to be a bit jaded - you say 8 and they take it down a few notches based on their experience. Don't knock them for this - trust me, you'd be jaded too at everyone overestimating their condition.

Two days ago, I sprained my ankle. It's pretty bad, but definitely not broken. The pain was about a 6 or 7 on my personal scale, down to a 2 on the second day. Not bad at all. But I had a similar injury 10 yrs ago, and at that time I would have said it was a 10, and stayed around 5 for more than a week.

So what changed?

Experience. In between the two sprains, I suffered a lower back injury at work. It immobilized me for 2 weeks and took 3 months to heal. Also, it's recurred a few times, though not as bad as the first. Still, if it hits, I clear my schedule for a week.

Compared to the back pain, a sprained ankle doesn't seem so terrible any more. When the first sprain happened, it topped my scale of experience. But the back injury eventually topped that. All in all, I haven't had many accidents, so I'm sure a broken bone or childbirth would re-define my scale yet again.

So maybe the purpose of the question isn't to find out how much pain someone is feeling, but to find out how much pain they've experienced. And maybe, we should have more sympathy for a person claiming a 5... because if they're calling it a 5, they've been through much worse. But there is an upside - experience generally teaches us how to cope.

I'm pretty sure this includes psychological, emotional, and spiritual pain as well. One more reason to be careful of judging others - we have no idea where they've been or what they've experienced. 

A City of Books

Not having work for the month, I find it important to fill my schedule. Today, I had plans for most of the day. Until everyone called to cancel in the first hour of the day. I sat down to breakfast wondering what I should do with the day. And knowing I was likely to waste it without some sort of plan.

Then I knew: Paju Book City.  It's a small town not far from Seoul where all the publishers are located. They have unique buildings that line up along a river - looking very much like books on a shelf. I went, took photos, and drove around the buildings. Maybe I wasn't as "spiritual" as if I had stayed home... but neither was I wasting time.

Relaxing in a publishing town is rather symbolic for me. I love to read - to the point of distraction. There's a very fine line when a "good thing" becomes "too much of a good thing". Reading a book - excellent. Reading while at a social event - rude. And yet, that's what I want to do. When I'm interested in a book (and the genre doesn't matter in the least), I tune out the rest of my life until I finish it.

On the other hand, in moderation, a book is an excellent way to relax. Reading enlarges the mind and introduces new ideas. At the very least, fiction stimulates the imagination. So, I will read, but occasionally I have to drag myself away from the books. And I will wander around a publishing town, but eventually I have to head back to the big city.

I'm glad I got out of the house today - winter will be over soon and I should freeze while I have the chance. 

Motivated Yet?

Not For Sale

David Batstone

Half the Sky

Nicolas Kristof

Been reading. Been thinking. The books.... it's advertising that we pay for. Advertising for good causes. We like stories, so they give us stories. Sprinkle a few numbers, put those in perspective to our daily lives, but emphasize the tragedies and courageous acts .... And our hearts are torn.

As they should be. Our hearts should be broken and our tears flowing every day for these issues. So why aren't they?

Maybe we're just numb. Numbed by the overwhelming need, the unimaginable atrocities, and the sheer distance between our lives and theirs. 

Here's a prayer for a little less numbness and a little more action.

A little post-script: Check out Charity Navigator to see how your favorite charity measures up on its fiscal responsibility.

Swagger Wagon Meet Country Squire

I first have to say, this video cracks me up!



Advertising is about selling a story - and their story is loud and clear: Yeah, you're a parent, but you're not.... your parents. You're cool. You're hip. They start off with the dad "rolling hard through the streets" (:30) and the mom "used to party as a college chick"  but now she's "cruising to their playdates looking all slick" (:50).

Advertising is about knowing your target audience and knowing what they really want. Then tell them that you've got it... and what they really want isn't a car - it's a lifestyle, an image.

So, I googled and found a comparison for you:



Wow, we can debate racism in the Sienna, but how does that Ford strike our modern feminist sensibilities? Notice they're only speaking to "the American man [who] is many things" (:08). Compare that to the Sienna wife who handles the money (1:26).

Also, to target their audience of the do-it-yourself breadwinner, they list the load space and engine features (:45, 1:00). Because, you know, men have to care about that stuff, even when they're looking for status at a low price.

Their story? It's about having a vehicle that is versatile - beautiful and practical (:19). But if you notice, there's a subtle message of wealth to go along with it. Just look at the names for the different wagons: the Country Squire and the Park Lane.

Anyway, back to the story being told by Toyota. They're telling it loud and clear with a whole series of videos that aren't commercials. Well, they are, they're just not paying big money to put them on TV. Another example of how times are changing - the best advertising now is viral.

Oh, so you wanted some Christian take on this. Okay: What story are we telling? Is it clear or are we confused ourselves? And also, Christians could learn something about evangelism from marketers.... know what people want / need first, and then tell them about the gospel.

Pursuing Holiness in the Minutiae

Just a few posts ago, I wrote about how the prophets are incredibly sensitive to the presence of evil and a period of time in which I felt the same. I've been praying about returning to that intimacy, but today I remember why it's so hard: It's the little things.

I've been doing a kind of spiritual cleansing - taking a week to pray through and repent of evil / sin in my life. It feels incredibly good - in the evening, after an hour of prayer and making some necessary phone calls or emails, I am surrounded by peace. But at those times, I'm intentional: I sit down, I pray for the right attitude, and I'm ready to face it all.

But it's the slap in the face that is so hard to deal with. It's the sudden and unexpected.

Situation: there's been a person that's hard to deal with. He has a good heart and means well, but we've been working together on something and he doesn't always "get" what we're supposed to do. He's got ideas - often great ones, but often beyond the scope of our project (too time-intensive or unnecessary, for example). So, sometimes he gets shot down (usually by the boss, sometimes I try to warn him that it won't fly). Anyway, I wanted to work on our relationship, so that the "shooting down of ideas" was in no way a reflection of who he is as a person. In other words, spend some time with him to develop a friendship to make our work relationship better.  I thought it was working.

Until today he sent me an angry email, criticizing me and trying to "push my buttons". Everything about the email was designed to get a response out of me. Even his word choices were purely accusatory and character-oriented (Any basic communications class / conflict discussion will tell you never to attack someone's character, but to focus on the actions and how you feel. For example, "I felt disappointed when you forgot to call me." instead of "You're so irresponsible!")

Okay, so here's the real point: I got angry. The button-pushing worked. I hit "reply" and started to (1) justify myself and (2) return with my own accusations. Well, I quickly knew that I shouldn't write a response while angry, so I stopped. But then I was just reading and re-reading the email. And getting more angry. The sort of thoughts going through my head:

You have no right to say these things!

And I was trying to be nice to you!

I don't have to work with you. I can be done with this. That's it. I'm done! I'm going to email back saying I won't work with you any more. Then see how you like it - I won't be your buffer. I don't have to take this!

Well, you get the point. And I'm sure we've all been there. I was really starting to get worked up (this all lasted about 2 minutes...)

Then I heard the smallest prompting from the Spirit. Just last night, I made promises about seeking to be holy, pursuing unity and compassion and grace and forgiveness. The memory of those promises tugged at my soul. The Spirit was telling me to stop. To let go of the anger and pray about how to build up this relationship - even apologize for the things the person criticized if needed.

But I didn't want to. And here is the crux of all of our choices - in that moment, I knew what God wanted and I knew what I felt. And they didn't line up. And because I knew that so clearly, I also knew I had a choice to make - the knowledge of the difference between God's will and mine at that moment made me eminently more responsible than if I'd sent an angry email in the first few moments. Because once you know something, you can't "un-know" it. At that moment, I knew I was wrong with certainty and clarity. Any action I take after that is nothing but clear, direct rebellion.

Still, even as that all became clear, I hesitated. Then I remembered - I loudly commanded the enemy to be silent, and put myself at the mercy of God. I knew the difference between right and wrong, but had no strength to choose the right in that moment. So I told God that he'd better take over.

He did. And now I've written this post. And in a moment, I will pray about how to respond - whether to send out an apology, an explanation, to send nothing, or to make a direct call / arrange a time to get together and talk about it. Ultimately, done with the right spirit, any of these could be the right action. Conversely, with the wrong spirit, any of them could just make it worse. That's why it comes down to guidance. And in the perspective of the prophets, it's about "Sensitivity to Evil" and "The Importance of Trivialities".

What Manner of Man is the Prophet? (Part 2)

So, continuing with the characteristics of a prophet. . .

3. Uses Luminous and Explosive Language

A prophet writes in a style both "poetic . . . [and] charged with agitation, anguish, and a spirit of nonacceptance". His words are "designed to shock rather than to edify" and his "images much not shine, they must burn." The prophet speaks out boldly and loudly to get attention to the issue, disregarding social conventions or matters of style. He's not an eloquent public speaker trying to convince the audience of his side of the issue - he stands out and condemns the wrong and call people to repent and change what's wrong in this world.

The reason he speaks with such conviction and power: "his life and soul are at stake in what he says and in what is going to happen to what he says." God holds Ezekiel responsible for delivering God's word, however unpopular it might be. God says that if Ezekiel doesn't deliver the message, the person's / nation's sin is on Ezekiel's head. But if he delivers it, their sin is on their own heads for not listening to him. That's a huge responsibility. And, as the prophet is a member of the society to which he speaks, the prophet equally shares in their fate.

"Authentic utterance derives from a moment of identification of a person [prophet] and a word [that he's delivering]... He is one not only with what he says; he is involved with his people in what his words foreshadow." The prophet cannot speak prophetically until he identifies himself with(a) the message and (b) the subject to whom he will speak. This is similar to Christ becoming human - he doesn't have the right to speak to us until he is one of us - and in so doing, he becomes the message. This isn't so strange as it may seem - a person speaks most passionately when they truly believe what they say, and even more convincingly when they've experienced what they say. In this way, the best messenger must identify himself with the message (although we must not confuse the two).

What Manner of Man is the Prophet? (Part 1)

Christians should be reading far more Jewish theologians - they have beautiful perspectives on God. Abraham J. Heschel (d. 1972) is one such academic, though a bit more of a spiritualist than anything else. I obtained a copy of his The Prophets and began reading. It's.... powerful.

Also, although he himself believed prophecy had ended, I challenge those with charismatic leanings to compare his words to your understanding of a prophet. I find that, while his perspective sounds different, it rings quite true of prophets today - of what prophets today ought to be.

I was going to simply list the characteristics of a prophet he gives in his first chapter, but instead I want to meditate upon them. So, I will present them just one or two in a post, with some reflections.

1. Sensitive to Evil

A prophet has a "breathless impatience with injustice" and "is a man who feels fiercely". This is in contrast to the rest of humanity, whose "eyes are witness to the callousness and cruelty of man, but  . . . we rarely grow indignant or overly excited". I'm reminded of an intense period of time when I was spending more than 8 hours a day in prayer, when God's voice was clear and his presence tangible. During that time, every slight sin, every cruel word from my mouth, or impatient action felt like a wall going up between me and God. The wall was so painful, that I'd immediately repent and take whatever action I could to apologize or change. Just before bed one night, I spoke sharply to someone. The wall between me and God was so intense, that I couldn't sleep. I was only able to feel at peace when I promised God that I would ask their forgiveness as soon as I awoke. Indeed, I was up before sunrise and looking for the person I needed to apologize to. What intimacy to feel the smallest prick of sin!

"Prophecy is the voice that God has lent to the silent agony" of this fallen world. This incredible sensitivity to the presence of evil is not intended to be a personal matter for the prophet - it has a social orientation. The prophet is obligated to speak out for injustice and to speak out on a large scale. That is, some today seem to feel that prophecy is just a gift for God to speak to the individual person - to speak words of encouragement or guidance. But, according to Old Testament prophets, it has a much large scope.

2. Knows the Importance of Trivialities

The ways and plight of humans are insignificant compared to God, but God chooses to be "preoccupied with man, with the concrete actualities of history rather than with the timeless issues of thought [philosophy]." The prophet is also concerned with the trivial and the details, agonizing over imperfections. The main point here is one of the contrast between the philosophic / theological and the prophetic. I think this ties in nicely with the sensitivity to evil, as a sensitivity to details and imperfections. But it's also a sensitivity to how the little things add up in life - daily choices take us on our whole life's course, and I think the prophet has the ability to see that. The prophet can look at those little things and see what they're adding up to.

Having a Book on Hand

Living in Korea means that English books are hard to come by. I mean, not impossible, but you really have to make the effort. So when I get the chance, I check out or buy books. Of course, I'm often far too ambitious and check out a dozen books... and proceed to read a chapter of each. But I've discovered something more valuable - the random used books. Whenever possible, I pick up a few used books with no intention of reading them. They're something that catches my eye, that I might browse for a bit in a book store. There's no particular category for these - some fiction is great, but even theology or history books will do. I take them home and forget about them. They don't call to me, I don't feel guilty for not getting around to them. They just sit on my shelf, hidden and forgotten.

Until the restless evening when I find myself staring at the shelf. I'm usually surprised at what I find there. I pick something up, flip through it, and then proceed to read about half of it. I usually manage to finish it in a few days. I'm discovering that this is a highly effective way to read in Korea. Strangely, I'm sure this wouldn't work for me in the US - I think I'd buy too many books, or feel "obligated" to read them because I bought them.

Of course, having access to a university library means I can usually find the books I really want as well. So, although I'm intentionally restraining my reading (I get lost in ideas easily & anti-social), it seeps into my life wherever I go. Books I'm currently reading:

• The 4-Hour Workweek (Library)


• I Give You Authority (It's too bad I never took Charles Kraft's class at Fuller....)


• The Fisherman's Lady (Recommended by a friend)


• Carpe Jugulum (I really have no idea where this came from - I'm only sure I didn't buy it!. . . probably won't finish it either)

All in all, my reading is pretty slow at the moment, thoroughly eccentric, and pleasurably entertaining.

A Two-week Challenge

It only takes about a month to gain a new habit. Seriously. And honestly, it doesn't even matter if you fail a few times (ahem, a lot) during that month. But even that month depends on the first two weeks. So really, it takes about 2 weeks to kick off a new habit (or stop one).

For example: You want to go to the gym four times a week. That's a good number, gives you some room for missing out. Or eat more vegetables. Or pray daily. Or write a journal / blog. Or not smoke.

All you have to do is: (1) make a commitment to just 1 week and (2) connect it to a "trigger" action.

(1) A week is short and definable, it's easy to see the end of it. If you "really want" to do something, you can usually use that to get through the first week.

(2) Find a realistic time to put it in your schedule. Waking up an hour early to do it probably won't work. But going to the gym after work, or praying between brushing your teeth and going to bed - those are reasonable. Smokers - a little trickier as there is a chemical addiction, but deal with the physical habit. Try chewing gum. Take a smoking break like before, take a long stick of gum, and chew it slowly, by biting off small bits. In other words, make it as similar to smoking as possible. Try to connect it to your real schedule so that something you already do will "trigger" the newest habit.

Suspending the Critic

I fired my critic a few weeks ago. She was driving me crazy! Everything I did, or everything I heard, she was picking out the faults. Of course, she was generally right. And I have to give her credit - she didn't nitpick. She usually reserved her critiques for the important things, and only pointed out one or two major flaws. She especially liked finding the flaws with logic or theology.

But a few weeks ago, she was hovering over one book I was trying to read. She wasn't saying anything, just hovering with that watchful eye in a fairly restrained manner. But still, hovering. I could sense her breathing down my neck, waiting to find a major flaw in the writing, the ideas presented, or the author's perspective.

So I fired her. I told her to get lost and never find her way back. I told her that I appreciate her caution, and that she is well-trained with a good eye and discipline. But I also told her I won't be needing her services at the moment.

The amazing thing? She left. Instantly. Didn't return stealthily or whisper negative thoughts in my ear. I haven't heard a word from her. I know that if I ever need her, she'll return at a moment's notice. And she may even creep back when I'm tired or otherwise irritable. But for now...

The spirit of criticism left.

Why aren't you?

How do you change your behavior? How do you change a whole group's behavior?  There are things you do that you shouldn't, and things you should be, but you don't. The problem is, most people start by asking the wrong questions.

I should eat healthier. Why? What are the benefits? Why is it important? Why should I?

That's the wrong question. You already know you should. Here's the right one:

Why aren't you?

Find out what's stopping you from doing what you should be doing, and take away the barriers. Like this:

I'm not eating healthier because I'm too busy to really care. Because I like the taste of junk food. Because I need my extra-calorie-laden mocha every morning. Because I really don't know how to eat healthier. Because my body's addicted to sugar or salt or fat and I don't even know it. Because I don't know how to cook. I don't like to cook. I don't like vegetables. I'm a meat-and-potato kind of person.

If you really dig down, you might be surprised what's really stopping you from doing what you should.

You should fire the unproductive employee. You should finish that project on time. You should stop smoking. You should spend more time with your kids.

So why aren't you?